Thursday, June 21, 2007

VENT

If I hear one more person say, "I'm pregnant" and then follow it with, "and we weren't even trying." I WILL puke on them.

That is all, have a nice day.

10 comments:

My name is April. said...

You are going to make an incredible mother some day! I really believe that. I'm sorry that people can be so insensitive:(

Farrah said...

That's how I feel every time I click on someone's blog and they mention their boyfriend or fiance or husband. In my mind, I'm just like everybody else. Except I'm not. You may feel like the only one without children, but I feel like I'm the only one without a significant other. I'll take being childless to being alone anyday.

(I'm not trying to downplay your fertility issues. I just wish people would realize how lucky they are to have SOMEBODY in their life).

Erin Nevicosi said...

Not having a boyfriend or husband is something that you have a certain amount of control over.

Not being able to have a child, however, is something that is completely out of a person's hands.

I don't think the two are even remotely comparable. Not even a little bit.

Erin Nevicosi said...

And we all realize how lucky we are to have someone in our lives. You shouldn't assume that just because people have someone to love means they're not thankful for that person and that they don't realize how lucky they are.

Anonymous said...

Yeah, that was an absolutely disgusting comment. Not everything is about you all the time. If your life is pathetic, it's your own fault.

Not being able to have a baby isn't Tracey's fault, though.

It'll happen Tracey, keep the faith. But yes, it must not be very fun to hear people make those anouncements.

Farrah said...

I didn't mean for it to be a derogatory comment in any way, but I just knew someone would interpret it that way.

Erin, I disagree with you. Science can help people have babies (sometimes). Science doesn't help someone 'find' their life mate. And I think the two are quite relatable. We both feel the frustration of longing for something that we want and don't presently, and may never, have.

Anonymous, see, that's where you're wrong. It's all about me, all the time. And that's why I hate being alone. I live to do kind things for other people, to maybe make someone else's day a little bit easier. I feel like I can do so much more than this!

Erin Nevicosi said...

I still disagree wholeheartedly.

If you can't have a baby, there's science, but science doesn't always work. And it's incredibly expensive and not always feasible for people to continue with it.

Plus, women only have a certain window of time to have a child, whereas people have their entire life to find a mate. And there are tons and tons and tons of things you can do that will help you find a mate. Having a baby, not as much.

I'm just saying the comparison was ridiculous and slightly inappropriate.

Farrah said...

I'm more than well aware of the biological clock. That's one of the main reasons I feel so much pressure to find someone so that I can have children without scientific intervention. And according to my doctor, I have about 4 1/2 years. That is not a lot of time. IF women could have children forever, I wouldn't care when I met someone. But, I'd like to meet someone in enough time and at least have the option to have children!

So, what are your suggestions for meeting people, besides eHarmony? Really, I want to know -- I'm open for suggestions. Obviously I don't have all the answers or I wouldn't be in the position I'm in. Oh, and please feel free to move this to my blog or facebook or something, as this is outside the scope of this blog.

Tracey said...

eeks! wow, thats the most comments I got on any post, and it was one of my shortest. Thank you for the support everyone. I love my husband more than anything and I thank God for him all the time. The emotions of looking for a guy/husband and trying to have a child are very very different. I have no control over this. I can see many doctors and pay tons and tons of money for science that is not guaranteed to work. And it breaks my heart to know that I may not be able to give my husband a child.
I remember the struggles of dating and finding a guy and that sucked too. But this is just really different.
I hope I'm not hurting anyone's feelings.
Thanks again for the comments though!

Jenny said...

Hi, Tracey!

I came over from Michele's site - I've got a question for you - will you email me?